tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post6294682342089475489..comments2024-02-10T10:20:14.121-08:00Comments on A Daily Scoop: More QuestionsStephanie Waitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-39364299505668224612008-11-27T03:41:00.000-08:002008-11-27T03:41:00.000-08:00Anonymous:You are only right about one thing:YOU D...Anonymous:<BR/><BR/>You are only right about one thing:<BR/><BR/>YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to throw out a pretty good "guess" that, that is because you have never lost a child. If you had, you would never have been able to utter any of those insensitive, thoughtless words.<BR/><BR/>And let me just say right now, as one who has lost a parent, a friend, and a pet...it is NOT the same. As one who has been through more trials in my short 25 years of life than most people their entire lives...it is NOT the same. There is NOTHING on this earth as terrible as losing a child. NOTHING.<BR/><BR/>If you ever took an hour to get to know and *really* understand a mother who has lost a child...really asked how she was doing and waited and WANTED to hear the truth, maybe you would have some semblance of an idea. Instead, you are probably the person who says "Oh HI, how are you?" as you walk to the other side of the room and start chatting to someone else. :/<BR/><BR/>I have spoken with more mothers who have lost a child in the last two months than I want to believe, and you NEVER stop truly mourning. There will always be a hole, no matter what else you have in life. Other children help distract you from the pain, help you to live life...but they do not fill that hole of the missing child.<BR/><BR/>I honestly cannot believe you are criticizing someone's else choice at deciding to have another child. You "visit her site every once in awhile" and now you claim to know what is best for her and her family, and oh, how she should be grieving after only 5 months of losing her little girl!<BR/><BR/>Lastly, I absolutely cannot BELIEVE that you HONESTLY think she is doing this for ATTENTION!!!!!!! I just have no words. No wait, I have one: pathetic. <BR/><BR/>Seriously? Its people like you that make grieving so much more the harder. "Mourn with those that mourn" its not "tell them to get a grip" in the name of "helping them". <BR/><BR/>As you eat your Thanksgiving dinner today with all your loved ones, why don't you give thanks that you are completely naive and clueless on this subject, and may you always stay that way. Because even with the horrid things you said ("no offense") a mother who has gone through this would NEVER wish it on their worst enemy.<BR/><BR/><BR/>*Stephanie,<BR/><BR/>You, above all others, have come across to me as dealing with this the "best" out of all us angel children moms. If that person even knew the HALF of it *shakes head*<BR/><BR/>*hugs*<BR/>~BethanyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-76540832609833018502008-11-25T22:30:00.000-08:002008-11-25T22:30:00.000-08:00PS - I also love what you've said in the past abou...PS - I also love what you've said in the past about treating someone that has lost a child, along the lines of - THERE IS NO TIMETABLE FOR MOURNING. <BR/>Especially for a child - you will still long to hold her in 25 years, in 50 years, you will always miss Camille. For people that criticize a mother to move on and put on her happy face on her blog for the public, 5 months after a tragic loss is just ... I could list 10 adjectives here along the lines and it's unthinkable. I'd hate to read what that person will say 5 years from now, because you will still be missing your child (on a different level) and Camille will always be your Daughter.<BR/><BR/>Sorry, had to get that out. :)Plain Jamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07796659966659734268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-1019831049377437652008-11-25T22:21:00.000-08:002008-11-25T22:21:00.000-08:00Stephanie, thanks for another great post! (and re...Stephanie, thanks for another great post! (and responses.)<BR/><BR/>Have you considered not allowing "Anonymous" comments?<BR/><BR/>I am sure that you will continue on with your posts as you have said in the past. You seem to let a lot of things "roll off" so to speak, and seeing how you handle this (I would shut my blog down - I'm so over-emotional!!) you really are graceful. Thanks for being such a great example. You have a gift for writing.Plain Jamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07796659966659734268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-19210380712017451402008-11-25T20:28:00.000-08:002008-11-25T20:28:00.000-08:00Stephanie- when I first read annon. comment I was ...Stephanie- when I first read annon. comment I was horrified, I was apalled...I was ticked off! I immediately thought of everything I wanted to chew her out about. How dare she!? Whether she meant to be rude or not, she obviously crossed the line. But then I read your response and I didn't feel the need to respond to her anymore. That's the amazing thing about you, you handle things with grace and dignity and are a true example of turning the other cheek and having compassion. I felt so much better after reading your response.<BR/><BR/>And then Robert H. ruined it.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry for people who cause you more pain than you have to deal with naturally. You have a talent with words and I'm grateful for the way you willingly share your heart and soul. I hope ignorant people won't cause you to turn your blog private because so many will be missing out. You lift others up daily. Thank you.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05006071252218525638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-50561013129505376282008-11-25T19:40:00.000-08:002008-11-25T19:40:00.000-08:00Stephanie and Jonathan,We love you, we miss you an...Stephanie and Jonathan,<BR/><BR/>We love you, we miss you and we pray for you. Thanks for your example and your faith. Have a Happy Thanksgiving...for we have so much to be thankful for.<BR/><BR/>Love Anthony, Angie, Araya, Ammon and as of 2 weeks ago AliviaFamilia Martinezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226175121167918059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-74809813340963794302008-11-25T18:11:00.000-08:002008-11-25T18:11:00.000-08:00Does anyone else think that it is interesting how ...Does anyone else think that it is interesting how Anonymous changed her story after she read everyone else's comments and Stephanie's. Lucky for you anon. that Stephanie is a good and Christ-like person, because if it would have been me I might have not been so nice. For you and the other Anon. whether you are new to the blogging world or not what gives you the right to go on someone else's blog and tell THEM how their life is or should be! Especially since you have never gone through what she has or know what she is even feeling. That's the only reason every one was "all up in arms" about this. I also noticed that you said you are LDS well whether you are or not shame on you because I was raised that we should never judge anyone ever no matter what, so maybe you need to take a step back and read what you really wrote the first time!<BR/><BR/>Stephanie:<BR/>I can't say I get on your blog every day but I do from time to time. I just want to say that often times I do get on I am brought to tears when I have read some of your posts and I think you have such a sweet and amazing spirit. Thanks for uplifting us all and making me realize what I do have and to cherish it all and be more grateful. You truly are an example to us all! I also think it is amazing the response you get from people that are not members with all their questions and thoughts and the amazing job you do answering them I know your father in heaven is proud and I bet your daughter Camille is as well. You truly are a missionary and I think it is such a blessing that you have taken something so hard and made it to such a positive thing in your life not only for your self but others, you have such impeccable strength and courage. My sister lost a little baby boy almost 2 years ago in March she only got him for two days and we all still talk about him from time to time and wonder "oh what he would be doing now" or "wonder what he is doing up in heaven" and I am sure my sister thinks about him "ALL" the time. I remember after she lost him she told me that it helped that I always talked about him and what happened and how she was feeling. She said that sometimes she thinks that people think it might be to hard but she said it's what helps. So I can only imagine maybe that is what works for you as well, but just writing about it to get it out!(I am assuming anyway) I always tell her she is my hero because of what she had to go through and how strong she is, I feel that way about you as well. I know that she reads your blog everyday and you have inspired her. You moms that have had to go through this have a special place for each other and I think any mom can understand in a little way because we all are mothers and our children are our life! Anyway keep it up and thanks again for your testimony and example. I pray for you and your family always.Amy Jensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15502513599269878621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-15514178866598565052008-11-25T15:48:00.000-08:002008-11-25T15:48:00.000-08:00Stephanie, I agree that you do awesome at answerin...Stephanie, I agree that you do awesome at answering these questions. You truly are a missionary! I'm a life-long active member, but reading your answers have helped me remember things that I have kind of forgotten. Thanks (o:<BR/><BR/>Also, for the person who was a bit opinionated on how you are grieving. It's only been 5 months! When we lost my sister-in-law to cancer 10 years ago, the grief counselor told our family that month 6 after a loss can be the hardest because people have all moved on and left you to grieve on your own. It's been 10 years and my in-laws and husband are still grieving. Just keep doing what you are doing. Whatever helps you through the process, no matter how long it takes, I say do it. You have a lot of people who love and support you...lots of us who you've never even met.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00397228844156885623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-76673826810056821562008-11-25T14:36:00.000-08:002008-11-25T14:36:00.000-08:00Sorry I meant to put follower of Christ? I acciden...Sorry I meant to put follower of Christ? I accidently deleted the "t"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-36490445380004103562008-11-25T14:34:00.000-08:002008-11-25T14:34:00.000-08:00I am also new to the blogging world, but I must sa...I am also new to the blogging world, but I must say it is interesting to see so many people up in arms about someone's opinnion or you could say concerns. Shame on everyone else for casting judgement, talking about praying for people you don't even know! Isn't that kindof hypocritcal of you to say! Talking harshly of someone you dont know, don't many of you claim to followers of Chris? You are so fast to act and not even think about what careless things you say! I think ananyomous had some valid concerns and everyone decided that his/her valid questions were viewed as attacks. I dont know Stephanie and I am sorry to hear about her daughter no parent should ever have to bury there child. I am sorry to hear about that, but when discussing loosing a child there are some hard issues to deal with especially if you are laying it out on the line on an internet "public" blog. Unfortunatley with public forums which this is! You are going to get all walks of life These are questions that probably many have had but have not had the guts to talk about or question. I can bet you that this will not be the last time that someone quesitons the motives of an individual who "journals" there life for all to see. I can see where "ananymous" comes from and this is a publice forum, if it were private that would be a whole other story. Some of you obviously will be offended or pray for me because of this post but it is the truth, so I think it is good of Stephanie to "squash" those things now versus waiting. Stephanie I just wanted to say sorry to hear about your daughter I hope that this can serve as inspiration to anyone who needs it. I am sorry to have expressed my opinnion so strongly on your blog but I feel that many of your followers claim to christians and I did not see that from them on this blog. Sorry<BR/><BR/>Robert H.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-85715468075552111142008-11-25T13:53:00.000-08:002008-11-25T13:53:00.000-08:00Stephanie,I just wanted to say thank you. I try to...Stephanie,<BR/>I just wanted to say thank you. I try to read your blog everyday so I will be reminded that I don't know what tomorrow will bring and to savor the moments with my children. To hold them tight, just in case. Thank you. Kim MeechudhoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-59925440827386511132008-11-25T13:42:00.000-08:002008-11-25T13:42:00.000-08:00Stephani,If you have already answered this questio...Stephani,<BR/>If you have already answered this question, i apoligize, i have not read through all your posts yet...getting there though. I have seen on some comments that people refer you to your own blog about Camille and others that have lost babies...how do you find this? Is it limited to those that have only lost children, or do you include those moms, like me that have just suffered a multiple miscarriages? Coming from a Christian background, I am taught that grief is grief and loss is loss and Jesus does not turn anyone away, but when i clicked on your other blog that has over 30 members...it would not let me in...is it a secret? I would think that if would help many of us, moms that are grieving to hear what you talk about? Confused!<BR/>Also, in reading the comments left today...like me, now i feel horrible about leaving an annoymous comment but I am new to the blogging world! Please do not pass judgment on those that comment annoymously, some are new, some want to keep there thoughts and comments private, I agree that the 2 cents person's comment was rough, but maybe that was her way of expressing herself...Please let address this about your Private Blog and what are the qualifications to be invited, or to why that blog is PRIVATE but this one is PUBLIC...THANKS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-91911337938942548952008-11-25T13:40:00.000-08:002008-11-25T13:40:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Liz's Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16564593795412378294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-18971176610164197582008-11-25T13:35:00.000-08:002008-11-25T13:35:00.000-08:00I must say TO STEPHANIE, I feel like you understan...I must say TO STEPHANIE, I feel like you understand the meaning of my comment. I must now say I am so sorry if my comment was tactless, or came off as an attack, it was MY raw and uncensored feelings, some pure honesty. My comment (that everyone sees as rude and mean hearted) was my view. It was all I could see. I wanted to know the rest of the story. I wanted to know HOW life for you is continuing. I wanted to understand more. The place you are at now. And the things I mentioned (fame, children, gospel) were the things I needed more understanding on. I admit "fame" was not an accurate word, but for lack of a better one, it is what I used. Thank you Stephanie for allowing me a fuller view of where this has all taken YOU over the past months. Where you find yourself as a whole big picture. I was so pleased to read your answers. I do respect that through a blog, we must not see your whole life. That was the purpose of my comment. I have come to love you through your honesty, and the raw emotion. This was my raw question that most if they were thinking it, would be too scared to ask. I was needing you to fill in the blank spots. I loved to read your answer. My feelings were so hurt by some of the things that others said, but you seem to have understood my intent. And your message was what I wanted. Messaging like this is not my favorite, because you can not hear my intent, my phrasing of the questions I ask. I in no way meant to attack. To accuse. I could break down every segment in my comment so you ALL could fully understand what MY meaning is, but Stephanie, thank you for understanding. I am again sorry if my comment offended. It was not meant that way. As for when I said "Take life and live in this moment. For this moment may be all you have. This moment is the only thing you are sure to have." I know YOU understand that more than most people will ever understand it, I remind myself of it, and it is something that helps me live in the moment. It helps me enjoy my life more fully. I was just passing the sentiment on. <BR/>I commend you on the way you speak of church doctrine. I never meant (again) to accuse you, but to warn. I have had many times where people were confused with doctrine because they heard someones opinion on the gospel, not the doctrine. I feel you do better with Church topics than I could ever hope to do. I honestly am amazed. You do an incredible job.<BR/>I am happy to know how you 'divy out' your time. I couldn't see how much of your life and thoughts were focused on the here and now, the future, and the happiness. I am glad to know that Camille now holds very much hope and happiness for you, that is what I wanted to know. I do feel you are a strong and incredible woman, we are all blessed to get to see into your life through this means. I wanted a little bit of a bigger picture. I wanted to see more. You showed me. I appreciate your kindness, and understanding and I am so sorry that others misunderstood my questions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-626691254797915442008-11-25T11:17:00.000-08:002008-11-25T11:17:00.000-08:00Anonymous....what is the proper amount of time one...Anonymous....what is the proper amount of time one should grieve the loss of a child? You must be an expert of the human psyche to be passing judgement.<BR/>John Walsh surely capitalized from his son's tragic death. What a money maker he's come up with....Americas's Most Wanted. What a sham right? I bet he is in for the fame and money too. Anon, I think you are on to something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-21700504670914434632008-11-25T11:10:00.000-08:002008-11-25T11:10:00.000-08:00Stephanie, There is a post for you on the Angel Bl...Stephanie, There is a post for you on the Angel Blog.<BR/><BR/>Michelle Larsen<BR/>Gavin's MomLarsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225983948401303386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-9219630282970574162008-11-25T09:41:00.000-08:002008-11-25T09:41:00.000-08:00Your blog is such a great missionary tool. You ex...Your blog is such a great missionary tool. You explain things so well and you write with the spirit. You are doing great work here through your experiences and knowledge. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12097238581537624315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-11321722843659354982008-11-25T09:10:00.000-08:002008-11-25T09:10:00.000-08:00Wow - this comment string has been quite a ride .....Wow - this comment string has been quite a ride ...<BR/><BR/>I hope we can all realize now (including Anonymous - if you're reading responses to your comment) that if Stephanie was seeking anything that Anonymous wrote about or was anything like Anonymous described, her response would no doubt have had a 'how dare you' approach.<BR/><BR/>However - Steph's response was the exact opposite. It was full of understanding, acceptance, compasion, and love.<BR/><BR/>Steph - you're an example in so many ways. Thank you for doing what you do!Shananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09242097846069051406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-88109125270011416092008-11-25T08:42:00.000-08:002008-11-25T08:42:00.000-08:00After reading anonymous' comment, I immediately ha...After reading anonymous' comment, I immediately had the thought, "Oh no you didn't!" But, I had to let my boiling pot be put on simmer after reading everyone else's responses. :-)<BR/>The harsh reality is: People judge what they don't know. After I lost my little boy I had to continually remind myself of that. People sometimes will say hurtful things and I would just have to keep in mind that it was up to me whether or not I chose to be offended by it. I was either mourning too much or not enough. But like I said, they just don't know.<BR/>Thank you once again for your great example to all of us. I am contiually edified by reading your blog. Keep it up!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14248991727080210277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-1012442111758322712008-11-25T08:33:00.000-08:002008-11-25T08:33:00.000-08:00hey -- who invited the cranky, critical aunt to Th...hey -- who invited the cranky, critical aunt to Thanksgiving dinner???Jonathan Waitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482597194728524742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-58540152392538080982008-11-25T08:24:00.000-08:002008-11-25T08:24:00.000-08:00When I read the comments of "Anonymous," I intende...When I read the comments of "Anonymous," I intended to write an answer of sorts to her after I was finished reading the rest of the comments people left for you. Having now read your own comment, I find that my response to "Anonymous" is completely unnecessary.<BR/><BR/>You are quite a woman!Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-10177249251239161222008-11-24T22:47:00.000-08:002008-11-24T22:47:00.000-08:00Stephanie,I just wanted to to quickly comment and ...Stephanie,<BR/>I just wanted to to quickly comment and tell you how much inspiration your blog is to me. I have 5 children and completely understand how you love each completely in their own way. If I were ever to lose one I would do just as you have--stay connected to them by journaling. Your blog is such a blessing to me. Never stop sharing--even if you get "off" comments. How ignorant that mean-spirited comment was. They are obviously hurting. Thank you for sharing both the good and bad of your journey. I learn so much from you. Your blog makes me a better mother and wife. Thank you. <BR/>Darcylovinglifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905497453857899574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-14342201627114683202008-11-24T22:34:00.001-08:002008-11-24T22:34:00.001-08:00Dear Stephanie, Having read every single one of yo...Dear Stephanie, <BR/>Having read every single one of your entries, and many of the comments, I can't let this anonymous comment pass without throwing in my 2 cents! <BR/><BR/>Your blog has done so much for so many. It inspires us to be better people, better mothers, and search for answers in our spiritual lives. Unfortunately, sometimes some readers feel it is okay to burden you with their issues. It is too bad that people don't understand that this blog is only a fraction of your life. It is too bad that they don't notice the sidebar where you have written that your blog is a tool for you to work through your grief. I hope that you continue to see the positive impact your blog has, and disregard these comments that seek to send you off track. <BR/><BR/>Stay strong Stephanie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-39894883645876429482008-11-24T22:34:00.000-08:002008-11-24T22:34:00.000-08:00Kathryn M,does my baby peanut already have a spiri...Kathryn M,<BR/>does my baby peanut already have a spirit in it? I don't know. Maybe? John the baptist leapt for joy within Elizabeth when Mary pregnant with Jesus came near. So maybe? But I don't know when the spirit enters the body for sure. I have lots of ideas that are possibilities but they are just possibilities and I don't have a real answer. <BR/><BR/>I look forward to taking that class in heaven. Till then I just trust in the Lord.<BR/>StephanieStephanie Waitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-39964986226544644722008-11-24T22:30:00.000-08:002008-11-24T22:30:00.000-08:00Dear Stephanie- In the last few months as I read y...Dear Stephanie- In the last few months as I read your blog daily, there are some things that are vividly apparent to me.<BR/><BR/>-You blog is a record of your experience, for you, not for fame, not for others, but you and your family. It has become a place for answers and knowledge, but that does not change your original intent. And what is a blog for? Just that.<BR/><BR/>-You have an innate gift for explaining the gospel and it's principles, clearly and concisely for those of many faiths as well as those of us who are LDS. I honor your ability to share the way you have. It lifts my spirit daily.<BR/><BR/>-You are still in the freshman phase of grief. Of course Camille is at he the forefront, I cannot expect that anyone would expect anything different.<BR/><BR/>- Your love for your girls is so apparent it inspires me. Your love for your husband is so touching. Your relationship and the strengths of joy and friendship is inspiring.<BR/><BR/>-Both of you still have and share humor! I think of Pres. Wirthlin's talk, "Come what may and love it." He talks about how important it is to laugh. I love that you are all still laughing. Camille would not want it any other way, and I know you have known that.<BR/><BR/>-Your pregnancy is just as viable and real to you as any other mother having her 5th child. Being pregnant with my fifth and not having experienced a loss such as yours, I can agree with what you said. Somedays, I will lie down and feel the baby kick, and think..Oh yeah.. there you are baby! I love you and am excited, but taking care of your 4 siblings makes me not pay so much attention sometimes! But, that does not mean we love these 5th babies any less, it is just different. I know their spirits know of our love and desire to have them. We do not have to publicly acknowledge it all the time.:)<BR/><BR/>-You are not "missing things." In fact I don't think you need another person's point of view from outside the window of your life to tell you that. I see it this way... your blog is only representative of a small snapshot of your life. Much like an edited version of Amazing Race. We only see a 10 min. view of a three day adventure. That is why I know you are not missing things, because that small view we see is so full of compassion, thought, valor and love, that I can only imagine what that wide angle would show.<BR/><BR/>Stephanie, these are things I know. I don't know you in person, but I know your heart because you have shared it here. I like to keep in mind also that you have not sought out fame. You are well known because people have been touched by you and your words and have created their own following. Much like any good author who has a story to tell. Your story is beautiful, and I love that you share it with all of us!Jonelle Hugheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00681842920695734593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-48814952787234853942008-11-24T22:25:00.000-08:002008-11-24T22:25:00.000-08:00Hey Steph, from one to another, I just wanted you ...Hey Steph, from one to another, I just wanted you to know I stopped in and while I don't usually read the comments I occasionally do.... got a good laugh, well at least a smile anyway.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00035435904670151846noreply@blogger.com