tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post5637835019328017090..comments2024-02-10T10:20:14.121-08:00Comments on A Daily Scoop: How to Treat a Friend Who Has Suffered a Loss -- Part 3Stephanie Waitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-23772903644122458752008-09-19T11:44:00.000-07:002008-09-19T11:44:00.000-07:00Those looking for Part 1 and 2, look around July 2...Those looking for Part 1 and 2, look around July 22.<BR/><BR/>StephanieStephanie Waitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-40468046584711185632008-09-19T09:55:00.000-07:002008-09-19T09:55:00.000-07:00I think you should post this post (and parts 1 and...I think you should post this post (and parts 1 and 2) on the side bar for quick reference. Many people will want to reference them in the future, but will either have to search for them or won't even know they are here.Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12038577673824354841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-33618817323744447232008-09-19T07:34:00.000-07:002008-09-19T07:34:00.000-07:00A little different topic, but maybe same concept. ...A little different topic, but maybe same concept. I have a friend who was diagnosed with cancer and is currently going through chemo. Does anyone have experience with this and ideas on what to do/how to treat someone going through this experience?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-57677241709851986702008-09-19T07:19:00.000-07:002008-09-19T07:19:00.000-07:00Thanks! It's very helpful...Thanks! It's very helpful...Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09741005799108520361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-66118552373221220142008-09-18T23:08:00.000-07:002008-09-18T23:08:00.000-07:00Sorry I don't think the link worked correctly. It...Sorry I don't think the link worked correctly. It's an article titled Lesson from a Milk Jug from July 2008 Ensign.Tara Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445133464180170403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-11677855914032453022008-09-18T23:05:00.000-07:002008-09-18T23:05:00.000-07:00My cousin, who is facing the eminent death of her ...My cousin, who is facing the eminent death of her ailing child, shared this article with me today. She said the concept was one she knew, but the analogy helped make it real. I wanted to share it with you.<BR/><BR/>http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=78d33645a2cba110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1Tara Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445133464180170403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-42345979098028880622008-09-18T21:42:00.000-07:002008-09-18T21:42:00.000-07:00Stephanie, have you seen this? I hope everyone vo...Stephanie, have you seen this? I hope everyone votes for you. :)<BR/><BR/>http://www.divinecaroline.com/awards/801-a-daily-scoopJodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15807520899703225632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-29341022826297419532008-09-18T21:41:00.000-07:002008-09-18T21:41:00.000-07:00Stephanie, I wanted to ask you a question, after y...Stephanie, <BR/>I wanted to ask you a question, after your post a few days ago, but I wasn't sure what I wanted to ask you. After a few days of pondering I've been wondering one thing. Have you ever thought about homeschooling your children? From my understanding you are a reader, {me too!!}, so I was wondering if you've ever heard of the book "A Thomas Jefferson Education." It is so wonderful. It has changed my life forever. I could never thank Oliver Van Demille enough for how it has helped me. I'll have to read "These is My Words" now!Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11901064857067104712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-20417207436162363532008-09-18T18:51:00.000-07:002008-09-18T18:51:00.000-07:00Thank you for your beautiful blog. I can't even im...Thank you for your beautiful blog. I can't even imagine what it would be like to lose a child though I know a lot about other loss. Thank you for your openness and honesty! You touched me. <BR/><BR/>A CD that helped me was by Jack R. Christenson entitled "Let Not Your Heart Be Troubled". It came at a time I needed and taught me things that I apprediated hearing.<BR/><BR/>Our thoughts and prayers are with you. <BR/><BR/>I've found that blogging is therapeutic. We've got a new blog LIST for Mormon Moms who blog and would love to add your name if you are willing. It's at http://MormonMomsWhoBlog.blogspot.com if you are interested.<BR/><BR/>Thanks and ..... hugs to all.Heidi A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17939806093496672380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-3466171703212620522008-09-18T18:11:00.000-07:002008-09-18T18:11:00.000-07:00It is always interesting to read other people's vi...It is always interesting to read other people's views on the grieving process and how often it is the same a your own. I especially agree with wanting to talk about the person who has died. Not about their death, about them. <BR/><BR/>When eating ice cream with someone I want to tell them my father's favorite flavor. Or in the summertime how he kept a bowl of water with cleaned radishes in the fridge. He lived, he had things he loved. Just because he isn't here now doesn't mean he never was.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your daily stories, I enjoy reading what you have to say and how you're doing.Randall @ Happy For This Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05641122256831489079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-15471952796903004802008-09-18T15:17:00.000-07:002008-09-18T15:17:00.000-07:00I found your blog very randomly and have read the ...I found your blog very randomly and have read the whole thing over the past week when I get the chance at work. Many times my eyes have filled with tears as I've read your powerful example of trust and faith in the Lord. My brain cannot comprehend the complete agony of what you've experienced...for your loss I am truely sorry. And at the same time, grateful to you for sharing this time for it has greatly helped me. The caliber of your spirit, outlook, the things you have expressed have been an inspiration and a blessing to me. You and your family have been in my prayers. Thank you for your example. I admire you. May the Lord continue to be with and bless your sweet family. <BR/>A hug and my love,<BR/>KTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-43468310673664457682008-09-18T13:59:00.000-07:002008-09-18T13:59:00.000-07:00Thank you for continuing to share your life, your ...Thank you for continuing to share your life, your wisdom, your wonderful spirit with us here in "blogdom". I still peak at your blog everyday and am always uplifted and inspired. I love how real you are, how open and honest you are and I admire your ability to express yourself so perfectly through writing. I hope you know how much you are appreciated! Thank you for giving so much, even when you may not feel like giving.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03727215438948903712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-57214799715752965282008-09-18T13:04:00.000-07:002008-09-18T13:04:00.000-07:00That was beautifully written. Great advice for al...That was beautifully written. Great advice for all of us. <BR/>I have been reading your blog for quite sometime now, and you continue to amaze me. I can see that you are a womean that tries to live by the spirit everyday. And, that you want to do the Father's will.<BR/>Thanks for being the mouthpiece for so many. I will continue to pray for you and your family as I have been. May today be a good day for you.Http://whatmeeganmakes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03367083285529846766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-59572034779143290212008-09-18T12:43:00.000-07:002008-09-18T12:43:00.000-07:00I found your site through a friend and I am so imp...I found your site through a friend and I am so impressed with the understanding, love and grace that you have developed through your experiences. I don't know if you have discussed this is in a previous post (I wish I could sit and read your posts from the last 3 months~ but with 3 small kids at home that isn't very plausable)~ but a thought came to my mind as I was reading and I thought I would throw it out there.... I don't know if you have done anything with Camille's things, but if you still have her clothes and blankets I thought it would make a beautiful patchwork quilt for your family to share as a reminder of her. And on the hard days how nice it would be to snuggle up on the couch and be surrounded by her warmth and love. May God continue to bless your family.Jen Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05659255089506932845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-7699628609464861382008-09-18T12:36:00.000-07:002008-09-18T12:36:00.000-07:00To the Anonymous on the power of prayer,I do feel ...To the Anonymous on the power of prayer,<BR/><BR/>I do feel the power of the prayers. Oh yes. I have felt their power in such clarity as I could never have imagined before. Thank you very much to all of you who have prayed for me and who continue to do so. That is the sure fire way to help someone in need.<BR/><BR/>much love,<BR/>stephanieStephanie Waitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-42327882695357688142008-09-18T11:33:00.000-07:002008-09-18T11:33:00.000-07:00I heard a man who lost his 15 year old son say tha...I heard a man who lost his 15 year old son say that he was talking to the son's youth leader and told a story about the boy. He then realized that he had told the leader the story already several times and he apologized for telling the story again. The youth leader put his arms around him and said, "I will never tire of hearing stories about your son."<BR/><BR/>This grieving man said that that was the best thing that anyone could ever say to him.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14549641709984322469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-58438390425211433852008-09-18T10:16:00.000-07:002008-09-18T10:16:00.000-07:00I thought you stated all this very well. I agree w...I thought you stated all this very well. I agree with the service part. You can usually help anyone through doing service or being served. It's a great way to show love and support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-67789448443138066602008-09-18T09:53:00.000-07:002008-09-18T09:53:00.000-07:00Stephanie, when I was little, our Sunday school te...Stephanie, when I was little, our Sunday school teacher invited us over to her house and taught us a lesson about prayer. She wanted us to understand the power of prayer, especially the power of many people praying together. Anyway, she asked each of us to take a turn trying to move a huge, old, overstuffed armchair across the room, and of course none of us children could do it. But when all of us pushed together, we did move the chair. I tell you this because I want you to think of it, the next time the waves of grief overwhelm you. There are so many of us, all over the country and all over the world probably, praying for you. For you! I don't mean that you shouldn't feel the grief (I am saying this badly) but I hope you can also feel us all lifting you up, especially in the toughest moments. I am thinking of you in the largest, comfy-est armchair of your choice<BR/><BR/>Thank you for this post, and for the guidance you are giving through the blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-84164752562872479252008-09-18T08:10:00.000-07:002008-09-18T08:10:00.000-07:00I found your site recently and have to say how sor...I found your site recently and have to say how sorry I am for your loss. It brings tears to my eyes each time I look at it. What a special little girl you have. <BR/><BR/>My grandma passed away almost 5 years ago this Oct, and it is very hard still to see my grandpa w/out her everyday. She was only 68 and it was a sudden heart attack while sitting in the car w/my grandpa and uncle. That was it. <BR/><BR/>My grandpa loves to talk about her, and loves that his children, grandchildren and even great-grandchildren talk about her... all the time. Everyone does grieve differently and we all need to have respect for that. When my grandma passed, we had a family only type funeral. Just family. It was so nice. We then got a lot of grief from friends that were upset about the fact that they didn't get to say goodbye. People definately need to know their boundaries and know the people to whom they are talking too. Even after 41/2 years, it is very hard. but with love and support of friends and family, you can get through anything. <BR/><BR/>Take care... MarceeMarceehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13464066503288017101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-14835120746181604292008-09-18T07:36:00.000-07:002008-09-18T07:36:00.000-07:00Thanks for the tips. I have a friend who recently...Thanks for the tips. I have a friend who recently joined the church and is still in such deep grief for her husband that it seems to almost paralize her some times. I have been given some ideas that will help me help her to move forward.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-82170506847547415352008-09-18T04:41:00.000-07:002008-09-18T04:41:00.000-07:00Thank you for being so honest! Perfect! You are so...Thank you for being so honest! Perfect! You are so talented!!!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12091948783069140258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-89405056564207941232008-09-17T22:40:00.000-07:002008-09-17T22:40:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing your insight on this subject...Thank you for sharing your insight on this subject with us (your readers). I told my sister about some of the other things you said in part one and part two, and she put it to good use recently. There is a woman in her ward that lost her husband 5 years ago to cancer, very suddenly. My sister is younger than her and she just didn't know how to talk to her. But, after reading your tips, she had the courage to ask about her husband, and the woman was thrilled to share. It was like she had been waiting for this moment, and it all came pouring out. She even brought a picture of him to church the following Sunday. She hugged my sister and thanked her for taking the time to care. So, you should know, your insight is blessing the lives of others. Thank you.HammondFamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05524286924850524963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-38625795109876944182008-09-17T22:38:00.000-07:002008-09-17T22:38:00.000-07:00Stephanie,I do not have any children...so I have n...Stephanie,<BR/><BR/>I do not have any children...so I have not gone through the lose you are experiencing. However I lost my father 7 years ago on July 10, 2001. After reading your post tonight, I agree with the tips you have given on how to treat someone who has lost someone close to them. Like you have said many times; the pain doesn't get easier or go away, we just become stronger in our trials that we are given in life. There are days I am still very angry. I was young when I had to say goodbye to my dad...I was graduating high school and I was supposed to be excited to go off to college...but I was left making choices with the rest of my family that no one should have to make. As you said Holidays/Birthday and big aniversaries must be harder/different...I would agree with this. One person once told me to try to celebrate the birthday and not put as much focus on the day of the passing. I see why they said this...but actually making yourself feel that way is different. <BR/><BR/>You are a very strong wife, mother, friend and daughter...and you have touched so many people not only those you know but many whom you have never and never will meet in person. <BR/><BR/>Take care...and thank you so much for all of your posts...you have such a strong faith and I believe that you and Camille have helped so many people.<BR/><BR/>JGAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com