tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post4462051561577322174..comments2024-02-10T10:20:14.121-08:00Comments on A Daily Scoop: Pregnant GriefStephanie Waitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-63328251270834682482008-11-13T12:02:00.000-08:002008-11-13T12:02:00.000-08:00You don't know me, but I am also pregnant, just ab...You don't know me, but I am also pregnant, just about as far along as you are. As I deal with the abnormal hormones and worry that pregnancy brings me, I can't imagine dealing with the grief you do on top of it. I am usually a pretty rational person, but you add pregnancy in and things get real irrational real fast:). I respect your strength very very much.<BR/><BR/>And it is obvious that your husband adores you. As someone who is also adored by her husband, I am so glad that in dealing with grief you have that wall to lean on.<BR/><BR/>Praying for you and your family.Katie Pricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03568518239327634258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-35728525733513721702008-11-13T09:15:00.001-08:002008-11-13T09:15:00.001-08:00Stephanie in my opinion you don't ever have to fee...Stephanie in my opinion you don't ever have to feel that you need to explain yourself to someone who anonymously, therefore cowardly, questions the deepest life choices of a person they barely know.<BR/><BR/>Take our love and leave the other crap behind. xoMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-41682385559193136432008-11-13T09:15:00.000-08:002008-11-13T09:15:00.000-08:00i love that... what great wisdomi love that... what great wisdomChelsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04318852969211554319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-78393996520911534792008-11-12T21:16:00.000-08:002008-11-12T21:16:00.000-08:00Dear Anonymous,Wow. I am rather amazed at the conf...Dear Anonymous,<BR/>Wow. I am rather amazed at the confidence you seem to have in your judgement of someone you don't know. And based on your opinion it is obvious you do not know me. <BR/><BR/>This pregnancy has been the single most healing thing I have done since losing Camille. I have never been more ready for a baby in my life. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps you get the impression from my blog that I am some wilting flower who is dying and needs to complete the cycle of death before rebirth can take place. Yeah, that is not really me. And grieving hasn't worked that way for me. I am a woman of strength and faith. I will be grieving my daughter's death for the rest of my life to some degree. But I know my daughter would not have me be depressed living in a fallow field when there is joy to be had in this life for me yet. <BR/><BR/>This little "peanut" growing within me has brought me purpose and joy. Like all pregnancies it has heightened all my emotions. But my grieving emotions are not so intense that they pull me down to depression, even with the pregnancy hormones. <BR/><BR/>And there is no one more sensitive to my needs and emotions than my husband is. You see, he actually knows me. And he knows me better than anyone. He takes care of me and is patient and loving with me. He is the one who takes over when I need to nap or have a good cry. There is no shame in how he has fulfilled his role as husband. You can keep your shame. For him there is only honor.<BR/><BR/>Sending you love whoever you are,<BR/>StephanieStephanie Waitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-84791165148698577682008-11-12T20:48:00.000-08:002008-11-12T20:48:00.000-08:00Your grandma sounds like she was a wise woman...wh...Your grandma sounds like she was a wise woman...what strength. No matter what though, tears are sometimes the only thing we have, and a good cry is cleansing. Hoping you get feeling better physically...soon.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02934906539939527687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-73194440587881823332008-11-12T20:36:00.000-08:002008-11-12T20:36:00.000-08:00You should have let yourself properly grieve your ...You should have let yourself properly grieve your daughter before you decided to bring another life to this world. You will most likely delete this comment, people will most likely prosecute me for this message....but you should have WAITED to be pregnant again...to open yourself up to this emotional, stressful time again...Shame on your husband for not protecting your sensitive state better. I am certain this will be a wonderful, beautiful child, however he/she's existence on this earth could have waited til you were more ready to bear him/her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-29033065701731770192008-11-12T17:02:00.000-08:002008-11-12T17:02:00.000-08:00I hope so too.My old friend lost her son Jordan at...I hope so too.<BR/><BR/>My old friend lost her son Jordan at age 19. She was also deeply religious and loved hymns and to sing, and she also found she could not sing or hear music without weeping after Jordan died. Your body and spirit are working overtime to try and understand what has happened.<BR/>It is a gradual realization, like a gradual healing that occurs after a severe burn. The ongoing nature of grief is so exhausting. I hope you are being as patient with yourself as you can :) and surrounded with love and support. I am saying a prayer for you and Camille.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-69041351428230338892008-11-12T16:44:00.000-08:002008-11-12T16:44:00.000-08:00I am going through some issues of a completly diff...I am going through some issues of a completly differnent nature right now, and my mom told me today that "years from now I will look back and the only thing I would change, is the fact that I wouldn't cry as much." I know that that might not be the case for you, but I agree with her. I know that all of our challenges will make us stronger. And that our Heavenly Father knows us, and even through the hard and unbearable times, he is with us, to lighten our load. <BR/>Thanks for your blog and your inspiring words, and also congratulations on your pregnancy.The White Clanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09037081814877310772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-60061246773631059492008-11-12T11:51:00.000-08:002008-11-12T11:51:00.000-08:00You will sing again.. for the Lord loves a song! ...You will sing again.. for the Lord loves a song! <BR/>Thank you for the post of your Grandmother, It reminded me of my Father before he died he would always grab my hand when I walked into my parents home and he would say I love you baby girl.. I was his youngest daughter. I too never doubted his love nor do I now!Susyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16788781915884137809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-76877025118711622542008-11-12T10:44:00.000-08:002008-11-12T10:44:00.000-08:00Random question: whats your maiden name? I saw tha...Random question: whats your maiden name? I saw that you had a Grandma Bunker and I my mom's maiden name is Bunker and have lots of Bunker family so I was just curious! Also, You talk about your husband working from home. My husband works from home quite a bit and it seems like it throws of my day and schedule and we always argue more when he is here all day long. Any tips??The Summerhays Crewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05978747008312557199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-59898689220225789802008-11-12T08:27:00.000-08:002008-11-12T08:27:00.000-08:00I am sorry about my comment yesterday. I thought a...I am sorry about my comment yesterday. I thought about it all evening. I didn't sound very compassionate or loving. I am so sorry. I have never been through what you are going through. I have been pregnant many times, and have cried many more times due to that pregnancy or post partum hormone problem we seem to have. I pray for you daily and think of you often. I pray the Lord will bless you with the comfort you desire, and also the ability to sing to your girls.Davis'https://www.blogger.com/profile/06806322953512823989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-18739869319237724472008-11-11T22:26:00.000-08:002008-11-11T22:26:00.000-08:00Just sending love and hugs.JaneJust sending love and hugs.<BR/><BR/>JaneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-34258441546566451452008-11-11T21:40:00.000-08:002008-11-11T21:40:00.000-08:00I want you to know you do not cry alone. Each tim...I want you to know you do not cry alone. Each time I check in on your blog I scroll down to read your words and catch the picture of Camille out of the corner of my eye I feel a stabbing pain in my gut that, in conjunction with your words, generally evolves into tears. You see my nephew, Devin, drowned a few months before Camille did. He was just barely two years old. It is still a very raw wound for me and my family. I am sure in time it will heal but for now it still aches. I know you don't know me but but I want you to know that I feel a sort of kinship and love for you and your family. I think you you and your girls often. I don't know if it helps but know that love is being sent to you from a stranger who has felt a small fraction your your pain.<BR/><BR/>Sincerely,<BR/>BeckyBeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08415807611047300636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-25940972091531212182008-11-11T21:34:00.000-08:002008-11-11T21:34:00.000-08:00Thanks for sharing that memory. My grandma was in...Thanks for sharing that memory. My grandma was in many ways like a first mother to me. I still cry when I think of her. I have a similar memory of my last visit with her. She let me know she loved me, and of course I already knew that. I hope someday when I'm the Grandma I can be as gracious and loving.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663084239837236800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-86889005588158479512008-11-11T20:10:00.000-08:002008-11-11T20:10:00.000-08:00Just have Jon jazz up I Wonder When He Comes Again...Just have Jon jazz up I Wonder When He Comes Again on the piano ... the dancing your girlies will do along side his playing will be sure to put a smile on your face! ;)<BR/><BR/>Our thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family, Steph. Much love.Shananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09242097846069051406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-70692047449577425352008-11-11T19:58:00.000-08:002008-11-11T19:58:00.000-08:00Oh my goodness your story brought back so many mem...Oh my goodness your story brought back so many memories for me. My grandma--who lived around the corner from me my whole life and was very much like a second mother to my sisters and I--died of liver cancer as well. I very clearly remember walking into her bedroom and being with her just hours before her death. And of course my grandma also left me with numerous peices of advice, both in word and in action. Small world.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05006071252218525638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-16210591720122924232008-11-11T19:47:00.000-08:002008-11-11T19:47:00.000-08:00I, too, love to sing. But those of us who do love ...I, too, love to sing. But those of us who do love to sing...we feel the song more than hear it and sometimes those feeling are so overwhelming. There are certain songs on the radio I can't sing the whole way through because I end up in tears, whether is be the power of the voice or the words. But remember through it all, singing is soooo healing. Push through the tears and keep singing.... soon you will be singing as you once did.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08862226613641239203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-68557393009731218212008-11-11T18:29:00.000-08:002008-11-11T18:29:00.000-08:00Oh, that "I love you. I love you. I love you..." ...Oh, that "I love you. I love you. I love you..." totally got me. <BR/><BR/>And I hadn't thought about the singing. I hope you can sing again soon, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-35736778650082301672008-11-11T17:49:00.000-08:002008-11-11T17:49:00.000-08:00I believe it will happen. Stay strong.I believe it will happen. Stay strong.Melissa Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14042854082959993088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-74401240135818648232008-11-11T17:25:00.000-08:002008-11-11T17:25:00.000-08:00I sometimes cry when I sing certain songs and my t...I sometimes cry when I sing certain songs and my trials in life are nothing compared to what you are feeling. Hang in there. I am sure you will be able to sing again soon.<BR/><BR/>RebeccaRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650537437143311516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-43508159504308798942008-11-11T16:57:00.000-08:002008-11-11T16:57:00.000-08:00I gave you an award on my blog today. It’s really ...I gave you an award on my blog today. It’s really just a chance to let you know I like your blog and point other readers in your direction. Thanks for sharing your experience with me.Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12038577673824354841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-46582302859606314822008-11-11T16:04:00.000-08:002008-11-11T16:04:00.000-08:00I hope you will be able to sing again soon. After ...I hope you will be able to sing again soon. After hearing your lovely song, with your husband, I think you will find your voice again. It is natural to go back to those things you enjoy, when the time is right. I pray that time will come sooner rather than later for you. I hope that your burdens may by lifted by others prayers for you.Jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13874756871420984377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-27080422917910197692008-11-11T16:01:00.000-08:002008-11-11T16:01:00.000-08:00I cry about once a year when I'm not pregnant and ...I cry about once a year when I'm not pregnant and many times daily when I am pregnant. And that is without any major trials. Hang in there.Melissa-Mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982727507824172371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-52658661818575179002008-11-11T15:27:00.000-08:002008-11-11T15:27:00.000-08:00I hope you do too. I love your voice.I hope you do too. I love your voice.Marleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08048818925662914087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-69246915006338701922008-11-11T15:24:00.000-08:002008-11-11T15:24:00.000-08:00I hope you are able to sing again too. I love read...I hope you are able to sing again too. I love reading your blog!Schwartz Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07528030654675811904noreply@blogger.com