tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post1003634053855802711..comments2024-02-10T10:20:14.121-08:00Comments on A Daily Scoop: Relatable HonestyStephanie Waitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08952237536421682841noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-90310821226515286732011-05-23T09:27:14.080-07:002011-05-23T09:27:14.080-07:00Very well put, thank you for sharing!Very well put, thank you for sharing!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05356407172198524385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-75992698077626087362011-05-19T20:38:12.072-07:002011-05-19T20:38:12.072-07:00Yes Stephanie, Thank You! This also reminds some o...Yes Stephanie, Thank You! This also reminds some of us not to pretend that we have recovered. Sometimes it's easier to just shrug it off in a passing conversation. But in reality, I think it feels better in the end to have a plan about what to say ahead of time when the subject of your loss comes up. Not just, "ah, it's been a long time I'm okay..." <br /><br />Thanks again for the reminder!Lena Baronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00325443487227663333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-32340623965879615642011-05-19T08:29:16.165-07:002011-05-19T08:29:16.165-07:00Lovely.
xoxoLovely.<br />xoxocynphil6https://www.blogger.com/profile/07458040263725964689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-8001120134961312492011-05-19T05:16:35.836-07:002011-05-19T05:16:35.836-07:00beautifully said. i whole-heartedly agree!beautifully said. i whole-heartedly agree!Chelsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04318852969211554319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-34760117232896886292011-05-18T22:11:37.394-07:002011-05-18T22:11:37.394-07:00Amen. Beautifully put.Amen. Beautifully put.Evanstownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03694539462310005054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-14366598573917889242011-05-18T20:09:10.279-07:002011-05-18T20:09:10.279-07:00Thanks for this post. I had a baby boy about two ...Thanks for this post. I had a baby boy about two weeks after you did this year, and he follows his older brother who died last year mid-pregnancy. I have had a way harder time bonding with him than I did with his big sister, and it has troubled me that this has been the case - even though I really wanted another boy after our loss. Your comment made it clear to me that my numbness was an invisible barrier that I hadn't let go of and that it is okay for me to feel that I don't have to necessarily "recover" from my first son's loss to enjoy this new good fortune.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-21332665446569652702011-05-18T19:52:22.124-07:002011-05-18T19:52:22.124-07:00Amen! Yes, grief changes, but you never "get ...Amen! Yes, grief changes, but you never "get over" or "recover from" the loss of a child. My mom lost a son 22 years ago. She says she thinks about him every day (as do I, as his sister). There are moments, like her friend losing a baby or her own grandchild being in the NICU hanging on for life, when she says the past comes completely back, and she remembers and feels every moment. You tell me. 22 years later. Is she "over it?!" Has she "recovered?" Yes, she has found joy again. Yes, she has been healed. But you don't just "move on," even years and years later. Thank you for this post. I think it's something people need to hear and understand. You have such a way with words.angeehttp://dressesandmesses.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7260216734032540750.post-48788508741547143642011-05-18T13:03:55.779-07:002011-05-18T13:03:55.779-07:00And I would add "move on" from...the pai...And I would add "move on" from...the pain yes...slowly, gradually but, not the love, the beautiful wonderful memories, the thoughts of and the talking about. I lost my one an only sibling a few years ago, A Sister, my best friend in the world. She died due to complications after the birth of her 5th child. Recently, my brother-n-law made this statement to my Mom, "we have had to move on so should you all." I've struggled with that statement in so many ways. My mother wasn't greiving for my sister in any unhealthy way only holding on to her memories and reminiscing with her grandchildren. The biggest thing I have learned through my experience with death is that we all greive and heal in our completely own individual ways and that it is so very important to respect that. (I planned to be brief but these things just spilled out) Thanks for listening but even more thanks for how you've shared your journey...it has been a light of peace, understanding and hope in my life :) So thankful for the strength of those who share my beliefs.Karmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02874956092568277815noreply@blogger.com